I had a friend that I grew up with whose mother and her boyfriend would fight all the time. Most of the fussing and fighting came after they had either been out drinking all day or they were at home drinking all day. I remember them coming home drunk, and she would run in our house to keep from being embarrassed by the two of them. Most of the the time she would play with us as if nothing was wrong, but when they started to fight, she would become very quiet and withdrawn. She would beg my Mom to let her spend the night because she knew what it was going to be like at her house anytime they were drinking. She talked about how there was never anything for her to eat at home, and she couldn't study or sleep because of the noise. My Mom always let her stay and it got to the point where she was at our house more than she was home. My mother told her she was always welcome there, and all she had to do was come over. After awhile she learned to overlook the drama at her house, because she knew she had a place to go were she felt safe and comfortable, and she didn't have to worry about being embarrassed.
India has a very high rate of domestic violence, especially against women. It's considered the fastest growing crime in India with a crime recorded against women every three minutes. Children of domestic violence tend to behave normally at home if the violence is hidden from them. If they see it, they tend to be unhappy, silent and reserved. They may develop stress related health problems, try to help and get hurt, or become damaged mentally, as well as copy the behavior when they become adults. Children, also, lose self confidence, become angry and/or afraid and blame themselves.
Public, private and governmental agencies are making huge efforts to control and reduce domestic violence in India. Researchers are also making efforts to reduce domestic violence by focusing on social conditions. The Domestic Violence Bill of 2001 was passed in India to protect the rights of women. The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act of 2005 was also passed.
I appreciate your post about India. I know from experience, laws past do not mean anything if the residents decide to not follow them. I have seen some of this in Africa, sadly but true. There are many countries that do not respect women and their value.
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